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HOWDY WORDPRESSERS,

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Carlos

F.E.A.R. Factor

Everyone is scared of something. Children are afraid of the dark. Teenagers are afraid of acceptance and peer pressure. College students are afraid of the massive job force that awaits them and where they fit into it. Adults are afraid of so many things…failure, commitment, love, and even success. The funny thing is adults are the least likely to admit their fears. Fear is a catch 22 emotion. It can hinder your progression and propel you forward all at the same time. The question is which direction will you allow fear to sway you?

A few months ago, I had the opportunity to hear actor/author Hill Harper speak at a company event for my job. I didn’t expect much, but his speech was a pleasant surprise. The premise of his topic was fear and how we allow it to hold us back. One of his quotes that he stated has still stuck with me. He didn’t coin this phrase, but it was very profound nonetheless (and it was my first time hearing it). “Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real”. Basically, what this means is that fear is nothing more than an illusion. We get so worked up behind the illusion, that we lose sight of the reality. Because of fear, we believe that we will fail. We will lose. We will die. We will be defeated. We will be left all alone. We will not succeed. And yes, all of these things are possible and can happen…if we think ourselves into that negative space. But what about the flip side of fear that says we are victorious? We are loved. We are winners. We are blessed. We are worthy.

Failure is not the worst thing that can happen to us. It can actually be the beginning of something beautiful. So what if you fail? You learn, get up, try again or try something new if that doesn’t work.  We should never let fear hold us back, only push us forward. Is this easier said than done? YES! In case you’re wondering how I came up with this blog, it’s because I have had some fearful thoughts recently in regards to releasing my 2nd book and starting school again in the Spring of next year. But one things is for sure, if we let fear stop us from turning on the engine to drive to our dreams, we’re sure to never get anywhere. Turn on the reality of something great and turn off the F.E.A.R.!

What are you fearful of and how do you overcome it?

Never Let Go (New Poem)

The tight grip you once had

Has now been loosed

Don’t know when or how

But the fact remains the same

Drifting away and searching

To find my way back to you

You let me down and disappointed

Now I’m disjointed, disconnected

Unplugged and left reflecting

On what you did to me

Yeah that’s what I’ll call it

Cause it’s easier to place blame

Than responsibility

You turned away when

I needed you most

I begged for you to stay

But you insisted you had to go

Until the light came on

My ah-ha moment

Your hand was always there

I was the one that let go of it

Pull Back Therapy

It’s funny how we learn the best life lessons through some of our greatest hurts. Recently I’ve been experiencing some severe back pain (largely due to injuring myself playing drums in the marching band in high school). I used to think people who complained about back pain were being over-dramatic…until it happened to me.  Long story short, I’ve been going to a chiropractor off on for about a year. My back never bothered me that much until the last 3 years or so. So far, the best remedy for my pain and healing has been getting a decompression. It hurts a little bit, but feels cool at the same time. You lay face down on the table and get strapped into all of these pads that wrap around your midsection and lower back. The pads are attached to cables that are hooked to a machine that pulls and stretches your back. The machine pulls your lower back towards your feet. Little did I know how this simple machine would tie in to everyday life.

Just like that decompression machine, we have to find a way to plug into something that unwinds us. Life can wind you up so tightly that it begins to manifest itself in your body, your appearance and even your attitude. Maybe it’s a stressful job that keeps you on edge. Maybe it’s harboring built up resentment towards someone who doesn’t even know you’re mad at them. Or maybe it’s pulling away from a person who’s really not in your corner. The thing about decompression (or pulling back), is the more you try to hold on, the greater your chance is for pain . The scary part is often times we don’t realize the effect that stress, anger, volatile relationships, and hot tempers have on us….until it’s far too late.

Sometimes you just have to pull back from obligations, people and more importantly, even yourself. Why do I mention pulling yourself back? It’s simple. No one will ever be more critical of you than yourself. But we often are selective in how we place that criticism. The average person can become their own worst critic when it comes to their physical appearance and over commitment levels. But how many of us are able to be self-reflective enough to pull back in an unhealthy relationship? Or maybe pulling back from addictions that ruin our lives? We want to throw pity parties and invite everyone over to tell them how we’ve been mistreated. But, in reality, we’ve done ourselves wrong by carrying pain that was never meant for us to bear. The more you allow situations and people to wind you up, the more uptight you become, the more pain you experience and the cycle goes on and on.

So what do you need to pull back from? I know for me, I’m working on pulling back from my stubbornness. Although it has kept me out of danger in some instances, it has also hindered me. Take my back for instance. If I had done a little “pull back therapy” and gotten my ailments checked out by a doctor in high school, I may be in a better place now with my back issues. I have many things I’m working on, as I’m sure we all do. Let’s all commit to a little pull back therapy today. It’s the best form of preventative care there is.

Round 2: Mama Said Knock You Out!

Quick! Think of 5 things that are always easier to knock out the second time around….

Here are my 5:

  • Public Speaking
  • Cooking
  • Making a big purchase (car, house, etc)
  • Lying (sad, but true…lol)
  • Writing a book???
Today, I want to focus in on the last bullet point. For those of you who have followed my blog for a while, or know me personally, then you know I’ve released a poetry book called Blurred Vision. The concept was in my mind for a few years, but I just published the book last year. I didn’t go through a publisher and, other than the sometimes mentally strenuous legwork of self promotion, I like it this way. Too many cooks in the kitchen often cause confusion on the recipe and leaves you with nothing to eat when all is said and done. Many people who have published through a company will tell you that often times, your profit is much less than what you’re selling your book for. But what do you do? Wait for the right company to come along (and hope they don’t rip you off) or take your dreams into your own hands?
I’m currently working on my second book, which will deviate slightly from the format of my first book. Since I’ve done this once before, seems like it would be easier this time right? Eh, not so much…sure I know where to go for an ISBN, copyrighting my work, etc but the creative process is almost like starting from scratch. Not only that, but the pressure is greater. Usually, when you do something for the first time there are no expectations. But the second time has extra weight because you want to match (and exceed) what was previously accomplished the first time.
But is there a real formula for success? What is success? I hear so many definitions of the word and in my opinion most people equate success with something tangible or monetary gain. But what about a successful mindset? I think you can have all the material possessions in the world and be considered successful by society’s view….and still be miserable. I see people like this all the time. I say all of this to say, if you have a dream…GO FOR IT!! Speaking from personal experience, there is no greater joy than gaining the fulfillment of what you want out of life. Could you fail? YEP. Could you succeed? YES! For every negative outcome, there is room for a positive one. I will be transparent and admit that I am nervous about releasing my second book. But I’m NOT going to let that stop me.  I’m putting it out there today and giving everyone reading this permission to hold me accountable. My book will be released by this time next year.
Your dream may not be publishing your own book, but you have a passion for something. Whatever it is, find it (if you don’t already know what it is), own it and drive it! No one can steer your destiny like you can (outside of God).
What are some dreams/goals you have set out to accomplish in the near or far future? How do you plan on getting there?
And oh yeah, if you haven’t picked up my book yet, get your copy of Blurred Vision today!

Keep That %$^# In The House

Just yesterday, I was in the gym minding my own business and stretching before my workout. As I lifted my head up from stretching…that’s when I saw it. It was one of the most shocking things I had ever seen….one of the ladies that works out at my gym in the morning speaks to me and says, “Hey Carlos!” You’re probably thinking, “What’s wrong with saying good morning?” Nothing at all…..but not with a head full of fluorescent pink, green and orange rollers! And this wasn’t a normal good morning…this was an I just had my coffee, climbed to the mountain top, and I’m oblivious to the disaster on top of my head kind of good morning. WTH?! I just don’t get it. Ladies, I know you work hard to stay glamorous (some more than others), but please leave something to the imagination. Especially when the removal of the imagination is not pleasing to the common eye. Going to the grocery store with bright rollers? Cool. Going to the mailbox with bright rollers? Acceptable. But going to the gym with them on? SMH….The line has to be drawn somewhere.

But that’s just one of the many recent sightings I’ve witnessed from people who should keep certain things in the house… and not in the street. And speaking of the streets, I spotted a puzzling sight in my apartment complex a couple of weeks ago. I was just unloading groceries out of my car when I see one of my neighbors walk past me with a black and red jacket on. The first warning sign was “Why do you have a jacket on in 80 degree weather?” But to make matters worse, there was some weird picture on the back of the jacket. As we crossed paths, I turned to look at the back of the jacket. To my surprise, smack dab in the middle of the jacket, were the numbers “666” surrounded by horns (insert blank stare). Hmmmmm….now that is a real WTH?! moment. Forget keeping it in the house. How about we just trash that one altogether???

Then there are the babies….yes, they are adorable and cute. But, one of my pet peeves is loud kids in a movie theater. Maybe it’s because I don’t have kids of my own yet, but I get really irritated when I pay $10.95 for a movie ticket and have to sit through a wailing soundtrack behind my head during 70% of the movie. WTH?! Not saying people shouldn’t bring their kids to the movies. Hey, babies deserve to see action packed movies too….but please keep them quiet, lol. And isn’t this the line you always hear from the parent: “I don’t know what’s wrong…they usually don’t act like this”. Right (SMH in disbelief)……you may just have to skip the opening weekend of the summer block buster and just make it a Blockbuster night. I’m just saying….

So what are your “keep that %$^& in the house” moments? What are those things you see, hear or feel that make your skin crawl? I’ve shared a few of mine and would love to hear yours. Feel free to leave your comments…..

Flashback to the G Spot

If you got a chance to check out last Thursday’s post, “Catch Me On The G Spot Tonight!” then you know I had an announcement to make. I was featured on DFWiRadio’s Thursday night G Spot segment with Jasira and Ty. I had an awesome time and got a chance to meet some awesome writers and get reacquainted with others. There’s nothing like being in your element and being surrounded by like-minded people who share the same passions and interests as you do.

So in case you missed it, here it is…….your ticket to the G Spot and checking out last week’s show. Make sure to tune in to the new segment of  the G Spot tonight at www.DFWiRadio.com, 7:00pm CST. The G is for Groove….

If you haven’t gotten it already, make sure you pick up your copy of my book, Blurred Vision! Click on the BuyNow button below to get your copy!