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Get Your Mind Out The Gutter

We’ve all heard the phrase “get your mind out the gutter” before. It’s usually said to snap someone out of dirty or insinuating sexual thoughts. Could it possibly be that the person telling you to get your mind out of the gutter is stuck there themselves? Lol….just a thought. But that’s another blog for another day. Our minds can be in the gutter for many more reasons than just a sexual nature. But the question is, how do we get out of that mental gutter once we’ve found ourselves there.

One of my favorite commercials is for Orbit gum. The Orbit lady says, in a stern monotone voice,  “Dirty mouth? Clean it up!” I don’t know why that’s so entertaining to me, but it is. With our minds, the same principle applies. A dirty mind will never get clean if we don’t attempt to clean it up. What constitutes a dirty mind? It could be anything from self-doubt,  a constant lack of trust, hanging with the wrong crowd, and just plain ole being too busy. It starts off with a spec that we say we’ll get to later. Then it sits a little while longer and becomes a mess that we just need to “tidy up”. We’re in still in control at this point….barely.  But then there comes a time where we wake up and realize we have nursed the creation of a monster.

So you may be thinking, “My mind is dirty and I like it that way”. I really hope that’s not what you’re thinking, but there are more than enough reasons why we should all take the time to cleanse mentally. When our minds are dirty, our creativity is stifled, we snap at people unexpectedly and have a poor sense of understanding. By no means am I saying my mind is clean all the time. Believe me, I have my own cleaning up to do. It was actually a dirty mind that kept me from coming up with a concept for today’s blog right up until last night. But here are a couple of things that have worked for me in cleaning up that sometimes filthy mind of mine. Hopefully these can help you too:

  • Have 30 minutes of quiet time per day– This is much easier said than done, but you’ll be surprised how much just retreating to a silent corner will reenergize your mind.
  • Engage in something you enjoy doing daily– Let’s try to make it constructive, lol. You’ll find those worries of the day seem to fade when we take even just a few minutes to do something we enjoy.
  • Keep truth tellers around you- If you’re surrounded only by “yes” people, you’ll never get a true picture of yourself. Sometimes it takes a spouse, significant other, friend or family member looking in from the outside to set us straight.

What are some methods you use to get your mind out of the gutter?

I Don’t Subscribe To That

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Time. Rolling Stone. Essence. GQ. Vibe. Sports Illustrated. Chances are you may not recognize all of these magazine names, but you know at least one. And you may even have a subscription to it or frequently read it. What is it that draws us in? Could it be the celebrities on the cover, sports talk, beautiful women, the stock exchange or inspirational reading? Whatever the case, there is something there that we can relate to, aspire to be or enjoy. Just a simple magazine subscription can tell you way more than you ever could get from a conversation with someone. What store tags are on their key chain? How does their bedroom look when they have an unexpected guest? Is their pantry neatly stacked or an utter mess?

I recently finished reading a book called Snoop: What Your Stuff Says About You by Sam Gosling (associate professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Austin).  The book was released in 2008, but I discovered it earlier this year. The premise of the book is based on his psychological studies of human behavior based on possessions, office spaces and home furnishings, among other things. I learned many things about the people around me as well as myself. For instance, how is your desk at work arranged? Is it full of picture, dirty or always clean? Depending on what pictures are out or how papers are displayed on your desk tells a great deal about who you are and how your personal life meshes with work.  According to Snoop… if all of your pictures face towards people walking into your office, you could have a need for acceptance or impressing people. Everyone should check out this book. I got it at Half Price Books, but I’m sure you can get it online or at most major bookstores.

But just as important as the things we allow people to see (CD collections, wardrobe, vehicles we drive, etc), there is also great insight if we look into what is not visible. Hidden stacks of clothes in the closet of an otherwise spotless room could mean more than just sweeping items under the rug. You could be a person who is guarded and puts on just enough of what you want people to see, not the real you. Makes sense, doesn’t it? Snoop helps us see that no one is perfect and that we all have flaws…but after reading it, you’ll be more keen on picking up your own…and everyone else’s, lol.

Here’s a few things about me that you may not know and if you read the book, you can make your own judgments based on it.

  • I have a very minimal amount of personal pictures on my desk at work.
  • I have over 500 CDs…different genres (R & B, Hip Hop, Gospel, Rock and some Jazz).
  • I prefer larger rooms in a home vs. having more rooms with less space in them.
  • I love  being interested in things or owning things that no one else is or does.

We can say we do or don’t “subscribe” to certain things in life, but the real test is what we actually own and participate in. That tells a more accurate story than our mouth could ever speak. So, what do your “subscriptions” say about you?

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Fantasy: Turned On Or Turned Off?

By definition, the word fantasy means to imagine things that are impossible or improbable.  Deep down in our most intimate, private, maybe even nasty thoughts…what is that we fantasize about? Could it be something of a sexual nature? Whips, chains, hand cuffs, etc….. you fill in the blank to your own fantasy. What defines a turn on or turn off, depends on who controls the switch. If we are honest with ourselves, we have all had these kinds of thoughts before (even the prudish people who say they don’t, lol). And speaking of “impossible” or “improbable”, how much control do we have in making some of these fantasies a reality? Maybe much more than you could ever imagine…

Ok, so maybe you insist that you don’t have fantasies of the sexual or carnal origin (hmmmm…right). How about movies or images that portray unrealistic and beautiful galaxies that we could never live in? This is another form of fantasy that pleases our senses and makes us want more and more. Just think of how technology has become more and more realistic over the years. Although we can’t actually live the life of an Avatar or have super powers like the Avengers, we can get pretty close to it. Maybe that’s why they call it a fantasy….because we can get so close…but it’s still not reality.

Now that you’re all hot and bothered and floating in 3D space, let’s switch gears. Have you ever sat and fantasized about where you will be in life in the next 5 to 10 years? Do you fantasize about what your true calling and passion is over your life? The sad and harsh reality is many people would answer these questions with a resounding NO! It’s easy to articulate what we want in the bedroom, who did what to who on pointless reality shows, and how cool the last Summer blockbuster was, but how often can we articulate what we want out of life? It’s natural to fantasize about things that are pleasing to the flesh, but we should always remember to save some room for what matters most. Just like there’s a thin line between love and hate, there’s also a very thin line between reality and fantasy.

I too am guilty of not being totally aware of where I will be a few years from now. I know that I would eventually like to be responsible over my own income, whether that’s owning my own publishing company, continuing to write books or even owning a restaurant. In my opinion, there’s nothing like having your own. Life has a way of throwing a monkey wrench in our best laid plans. But, we do have the power to make fantasies come true. If Donald Trump, Janet Jackson, Steven Spielberg, and Oprah can all turn themselves on, why can’t we? Everything we fantasize about is not too far beyond our reach.

So tell me, what is your ultimate fantasy? Have you turned yourself on and given your purpose the green light? Don’t wait for others to do it for you….you owe it to yourself to be TURNED ON!

I Did It On Purpose

There are many things in life that we do on purpose. We get up in the morning, brush our teeth, shower, eat breakfast, go to work, talk on the phone, answer emails, cut people off in traffic, cheat on our diets and blame it on stress, and even click on the link to view this website. But does the mean we’re really living??? NO!! We are just merely existing. So how do we move from existing to living? Sometimes we don’t even have to find out how to live, because our purpose will find us…..but once we find it (or it finds us), we do have a responsibility to live on purpose, not by accident.

Today marks history on Peauxetic Expressions. This is the first guest blog post, with more to come in the future.  In case you haven’t noticed, every Friday all my posts will be about positivity and bettering yourself in some way. It’s “Foresight Friday” and check out these 10 amazing tips to love life to the fullest, brought to you by Donalda Simpson. She’s a coworker of mine with a great spirit and check out these thoughts to live by that she’s sharing with us.

Feel free to share your own thoughts of foresight and wisdom too.

  1. Your purpose is TO someone or FOR someone.
  2. Your purpose determines the type of things that you have to endure or that will attack you in your life.
  3. Whatever grieves you in your spirit is what God has purpose for you to heal or to restore.
  4. Whatever you love the most reveals your greatest gifts.
  5. WHERE you are really does matter. God will position you around people who can promote you.
  6. You will only SUCCEED in it when you become CAPTIVATED by it.
  7. It will require seasons of preparation.  Pray for FRESH OIL!!!
  8. Purpose will be misunderstood by those closest to you (if you can survive your family, can survive your future)
  9. You will ALWAYS have an enemy. Without enemies you will never be promoted.
  10. It is within your purpose that you will find your PROVISION.

Scriptures to check out:

Jeremiah 18:1-2

God told Jeremiah, “Up on your feet! Go to the potter’s house. When you get there, I’ll tell you what I have to say.”

2 Timothy 1:11

For [the proclaiming of] this [Gospel] I was appointed a herald (preacher) and an apostle (special messenger) and a teacher of the Gentiles.

Deuteronomy 12:26

Only your holy things which you have [to offer] and what you have vowed you shall take, and go to the place [before the sanctuary] which the Lord shall choose.

Philippians 3:13

I do not consider, brethren, that I have captured and made it my own [yet]; but one thing I do [it is my one aspiration]: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead,

“You’ll never get to where you want to be, if you can’t envision yourself being there”- Carlos Harleaux