The Honesty Box


Imagine waking up on the morning of your birthday. You check your phone and find that you have plenty of missed calls, text messages and social media shout outs. After putting on your best outfit, you find a medium sized plain box, with a bow on it, sitting directly outside of your front door. Smiling from ear to ear, you pick it up and shake it gently. There’s got to be something special inside for you. Little do you know the surprise that’s lurking inside of the box. It’s filled with different colors of index cards with words typed, not handwritten, on them. It seems a little impersonal for such a spectacular event – after all, it is your birthday. As you take a closer look, you realize that the words printed on the cards are people’s opinions about you. Some are outstanding remembrances of your wonderful personality, while others are harsh reminders of your past and unfavorable comments about you. As you continue to sift through the many index cards, you find a tape recorder at the bottom. You play the message back and a stoic voice simply says, “Welcome to the honesty box”.


Wouldn’t it be interesting if we were all handed an “honesty box”, filled with anonymous statements of how people really feel about us? Those things they only have enough balls to say behind our backs, but not in our faces. Wait, let’s be somewhat optimistic and assume there are some nice things in there as well. We can hope for an honesty box for people to tell us how they really feel about us, but reality isn’t quite aligned with that. But you will be able to get Honesty Box in your hands very soon. It’s my upcoming poetry and essay book, set to be released later this year. You may have noticed tweets from me with the hash tag #whatsinthebox. Well, what’s inside the box? Honesty. For those of you that have read my first two books, Blurred Vision and Hindsight 20/20, you’ll find that Honesty Box is even more raw, candid and personal. It’s my version of the truth and I’m sticking to it….

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Honesty Box- Coming Soon

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F.E.A.R. Factor

Everyone is scared of something. Children are afraid of the dark. Teenagers are afraid of acceptance and peer pressure. College students are afraid of the massive job force that awaits them and where they fit into it. Adults are afraid of so many things…failure, commitment, love, and even success. The funny thing is adults are the least likely to admit their fears. Fear is a catch 22 emotion. It can hinder your progression and propel you forward all at the same time. The question is which direction will you allow fear to sway you?

A few months ago, I had the opportunity to hear actor/author Hill Harper speak at a company event for my job. I didn’t expect much, but his speech was a pleasant surprise. The premise of his topic was fear and how we allow it to hold us back. One of his quotes that he stated has still stuck with me. He didn’t coin this phrase, but it was very profound nonetheless (and it was my first time hearing it). “Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real”. Basically, what this means is that fear is nothing more than an illusion. We get so worked up behind the illusion, that we lose sight of the reality. Because of fear, we believe that we will fail. We will lose. We will die. We will be defeated. We will be left all alone. We will not succeed. And yes, all of these things are possible and can happen…if we think ourselves into that negative space. But what about the flip side of fear that says we are victorious? We are loved. We are winners. We are blessed. We are worthy.

Failure is not the worst thing that can happen to us. It can actually be the beginning of something beautiful. So what if you fail? You learn, get up, try again or try something new if that doesn’t work.  We should never let fear hold us back, only push us forward. Is this easier said than done? YES! In case you’re wondering how I came up with this blog, it’s because I have had some fearful thoughts recently in regards to releasing my 2nd book and starting school again in the Spring of next year. But one things is for sure, if we let fear stop us from turning on the engine to drive to our dreams, we’re sure to never get anywhere. Turn on the reality of something great and turn off the F.E.A.R.!

What are you fearful of and how do you overcome it?

Miguel: Adorn Remix- Song of the Week

Last week, Miguel released his 2nd CD, Kaleidoscope Dream to a strong sales week of over 50,000 copies. It’s the follow-up to his nearly 2-year-old debut album, All I Want Is You. You may have heard “Adorn” as far back as February as the first track on 1 of 3 “Art Dealer Chic” EPs. All of those EP tracks are featured on Kaleidoscope Dream, with a few new songs as well. But “Adorn” made so much noise that it was chosen as the lead single for the CD. I must admit I didn’t care for the song as much, until one day I gave it a chance and heard the whole thing. It has since really grown on me and I like the simple production on here. Plus, the Wiz Khalifa feature on this version makes it even better. In the background, Wiz Khalifa says “That boy can sing.” Miguel is no R & B ballad king, but it’s a sure thing he’ll gain an even bigger following with this one.

What do you think of the song?

*Check out my thoughts on the Kaleidoscope Dream CD at the end of my video for today’s earlier blog, “T-Boz Finds A New TLC”*

Look Who’s Talking Too

“Who did they sleep with to get their job?” “Why did they really get a divorce?” “She’s a fool for getting pregnant.” And here’s my personal favorite, “They’re stupid…it wouldn’t be me putting up with that.” Really? For everything you won’t put up with, there’s something you will. And chances are people may look down on you for doing it. All of these statements above are examples of hot topics people gossip about. It’s always so easy to talk about someone else’s business, and not focus on our own. But we should all be careful, because while we’re talking, someone else is talking too.

It really is a small world and you never know who knows who. We never know whose business we’re really telling and what the listener’s connection is to that person. You could very well be talking about someone’s family member in casual conversation, not knowing that person you hate is their cousin. As you pick your face up off the floor, now you’re the one being talked about at the next family reunion. Your best friend that you just fell out with is a friend of that family, and they can’t wait to snatch all of your skeletons out of the closet for the whole world to see. Maybe the best option was to keep a closed mouth.

It’s funny how the more you don’t participate in gossip though, the more of it seems to be thrown at you. There are certain things about people I would just rather be ignorant to. I don’t need or want to know everything. And if we find ourselves entertaining these kinds of conversations, we are just as guilty as the person gossiping. Sometimes we have to be rude and tell people to get out of our face with the he say/she say. If not, then some take it as a green light to keep going. No matter how much dirt we have on someone, there’s someone that has the same amount (or more) of dirt on us. It just depends on who is being asked. And let’s just say we have nothing in your life worth being talked about….does that make it ok to spill everyone else’s life story? Be careful of the talk that you spread. Everywhere you look, someone else is talking too. That hot talk being discussed next door just may be about you.

Bump It Or Dump It? Sorry…Don’t Push My Style That Way

No Doubt- Push and Shove

26 years in their career, I just bought my first No Doubt CD ever. I’ve always been a fan of their singles, but for some reason, never bought any of their CDs. So after enjoying both of Gwen Stefani’s solo CDs, I figured I’d give this one a try. All in all the CD is pretty good, although I do like Gwen Stefani better as a solo artist. But one of the high lights on Push and Shove I the title track. This song (and many of the ones that shine on the CD) has a reggae influence and just so happens to be the 2nd single taken from their new CD.

Kenny Lattimore- Find A Way

I’ve never been a huge Kenny Lattimore fan, but I reviewed this song by request. I have to admit though, this song has a different edge for him that I wasn’t expecting. The vibe here is similar to R & B singer Joe. Although I don’t see this breaking any new ground or major fan base for him, I think it should be getting more airplay than it has been. This is my first time hearing of it, but the song has actually been out since the early part of the Summer. Wonder if this is about his recent divorce from R & B songstress, Chante Moore. Dang, guess Chante doesn’t have a man right now…lol. Sorry, I couldn’t resist.

Ciara- Sorry

With the exception of a few songs (namely “Promise” and “Like A Boy”), Ciara just hasn’t quite seemed to gain her initial “Goodies” momentum that she first had on her first CD. But never one to give, she has consistently put out a CD about every 2 years. Now, she’s back with a new song. Ironically, the production will put you in the mindset of Promise and she looks amazing in the video. Weird hard-core dancing to a soft beat aside, she seems to really be feeling this song personally. I’m not too sold on the song, but hope it’s a big hit for her.

Psy- Gagnam Style

This is one of those guilty pleasure songs that’s just so stupid, it’s actually good. I have no idea what’s being said here (I need a translator), but this video is hilarious. I first saw it a few weeks ago and couldn’t stop laughing. I think it’s interesting too that the song and its dance are becoming such a worldwide hit, but many of the moves are recycled from similar songs (can’t you see “Jump On It” in here???). But I guess it’s true there’s nothing new under the sun. But I digress…this is a fun song nonetheless and you just can’t be in a bad mood when this is on. Check out the video…it has gotten over 300 million hits on YouTube…yep, you read right.